1. To homosexuals: Who is the guy/girl in the relationship?
If you are asking this question to an LGBTQ friend, you have missed the whole point. The answer to this is that there isn’t a guy or girl in the relationship. It’s free of these boundations. They share the work equally. That’s what an equal relationship is all about, regardless of gender. You ask these questions because you have a fixed image of who pays the bills and who cooks dinner.
2. To bisexuals: So, you haven’t picked a side yet?
People who are bisexual often get this question. However, bisexuality is a perfectly valid orientation on its own. It’s not a phase or dependent on who that person is dating. Some people will use this orientation as a stepping stone in their journey, but don’t generalize it.
3. How did your parents react?
Most often, people don’t ask this question because they are concerned about the emotional welfare of the individual. They ask because they are curious. Also, you may be asking them to relive a deeply traumatic experience for the benefit of your curiosity.
4. To asexuals: Are you a celibate?
The answer to this is a straight “no”. Most often, celibacy is a choice that has religious or moral reasons. In addition, it’s not necessary that celibates don’t feel sexual needs. They choose to do nothing about it. This is not the case with asexuality. It is a lived experience in which a person doesn’t feel sexual attraction or desire.
5. To lesbians: Did a man hurt you?
Yes, it might be that a man did hurt a lesbian. But she is not a lesbian because of some man’s feelings. This is a very close-minded and short-sighted question.